Relationship Red Flags

These are a list of common problem warnings in relationships. If you and your spouse have several of these, it may be helpful to you to seek a professional to encourage growth in your relationship, such as a couples counselor.

• Past behavior in relationships (Patterns)

• Character

• Family of origin (degree of dysfunction)

• Friends (how do they conduct themselves)

• Neediness (degree)

• Development of self outside of relationship

• Nature of conflicts

• Are relationship (needs) skewed

• Sexual patterns (questionable, past/compability)

• Values (comparable?)

• Possessiveness (jealousy)

• Behavior toward opposite sex (Appropriate?)

• Number of things that you are uncomfortable about

• Capacity for trust

• Spirituality - if applicable

• Demands (or lack of)

• Involvement in dysfunctional relationships

• Alcohol/drug usage

• Relationship (Children)

• Level of self esteem

• Ability to take responsibility (in conflict)

• Concrete vs. abstract thinking (ability, other views)

• Emotional intelligence

• Tolerance of others (opinion, behavior)

• Degree of flexibility

• Impact on your stress level

• Amount of energy required (to deal with this person)